Am I Being Cheated On?
Matt Ryan
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Warning Signs of Abuse:
Matt Ryan
The First Lady's Way: A Woman Way to Get the Right Guy
Paris Le'Ora
I recently was reading President Barack Obama's book "The Audacity of Hope" and I was drawn to the chapter titled Family. Within it Pres. Obama described how our first lady initially wasn't even interested in him. She had a plan for her life and it didnt include him....at the time. Now when you look at them, as they both walk the first dog, BO, all you see is pure admiration for one another. How can you get from being single to being in a meaningful relationship like the two of them? Its a simple as it will ever get, when it comes to dating advice. Dont letting meeting a new person faze you. Sometimes people can get really thristy really fast. No matter how the times change there is one thing that won't: What ever is desired is worth a chase.
If I confused you let me clearify! If somebody what's something bad enough they will do what they must to get what they want. Ladies I'm not telling you to play games but then again I am. More than one time have you thought you and a guy where going down the right road to bliss, but all of a sudden he stopped showing interest. If your relationship went a little like this then I can tell you the problem: every time he called you answered, every time he suggested the two of you hang out , you didn't even have to check your schedule you were automatically free. If that's you, you have to much free time on your hands. Trust me its okay to cancel sometimes, trust, he's not going to write you off forever, all you have to do is just reschedule.
When you are dating some one you should work them around your sheducle, not work your shedule around them. Dont be a thirst thirst, it's not cute and you just may end up being the old lady at the end of the block with all those damn cats and NO MAN!!!!!
How To Flirt!
Matt Ryan
Top 5 Male Turnoffs
By:Pashence Jackson
Turnoff #1-Flakiness
Guys say that the biggest turnoff in a woman is when she cannot commit and when she constantly flakes on plans. If you are a gal that constantly cancels plans last minute, you are giving your guy the impression that he's not good enough for now. Who really wants to date someone who makes them feel temporary?
Turnoff #2-Poor Communication skills
Change your ways if you are this girl: your date/bf said or did something that you did not like. Instead of saying something, you just went along with it. You probably said it was just fine. Later down the line you got upset again for the same thing. Most of us have done this. Everyone deserves to be with someone who is comfortable communicating wants, needs, and desires. Get in the habit of saying what you mean.
Turnoff #3-Not playing fair
Guys pay attention to everything! You expect every date to go like this: he drives to the other side of town to pick you up, open the door, pay the check, drop you off, and call that night! You need a wake up call! You are not dating fairly! Most important if you get into an argument with that person and you throw things, hold grudges and try to win every argument, you are going to be a very lonely single person. Relationships should be give and take. Pick him up and take him out sometimes. You pay sometimes. There is nothing wrong with that.
Turnoff #4-Trying to change him
I think the media portrays this the most. Don't you know how you read about a woman trying to change how her man dresses, what he watches, or even the music he listens to. Please don't be this gal. Just as the guy in your life accepts you, you should accept him. And if you can't? DON'T DATE HIM! It's just that simple. The whole point of being single is to meet a variety of people and, eventually settle down with the right one. Rather than trying to change the wrong guy into Mr.Right, why not keep playing the field until you meet that someone whose imperfections aren't your desire to change?
Turnoff #5 Ultimatums
Men hate ultimatums! They are very ineffective. Healthy and happy relationships don't need ultimatums. When you regularly communicate your needs to the person you're in a relationship with, ultimatums are unnecessary. It's when thee communication breaks down, when one person feels that their needs are not met. This should be avoided at all costs!
So there it is--the top 5 male turnoffs. By understanding these dating tips. You ultimately master how to turn the right guy on. Good Luck!
The Relationship Fast: One week down
Matt Ryan
- Acknowledge something doesn't "feel right" in your relationship and be prepared to get to the bottom of it.
- Ask yourself the following questions:
- - Does he/she call you less often?
- - Does he/she make excuses to not see you when you used to be inseparable?
- - Is he/she NOT where you are told he/she will be when you look in to it?
- - When you call at normal times, is he/she not home?
- - Does he/she seem to be avoiding you at school?
- - Has he/she become very distant OR more affectionate than normal on the rare occasions you are together?
- - Have other people noticed the strange behavior?
- - Have other people seen him/her with somebody else?
- - Does he/she seem distracted when he/she is with you?
- If you answered "Yes" to 4 or more of the above questions there is a good chance that your steady is cheating.
Tips:
- If you think you are being cheated on, confront your steady. Stay calm and non-aggressive when you do this.
- Do NOT cheat back in an effort to make him/her jealous or to start a fight where you can confrom them.
- If you are unhappy, if things have changed to the point where you fear you are being cheated on, ask yourself if you want to stay in the relationship.
- Do not think of this as a contest between you and "the other person", you are not a loser because you are being cheated on.
- If you have been cheated on think long and hard about taking him.her back if they ask - once a cheater ALMOST always a cheater!
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Warning Signs of Abuse:
Matt Ryan
 | Is jealous or possessive toward you. (Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships; it is also a core component of Sexual Addictions and Love Addiction.) |
| Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding. |
| Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships. |
| Is violent and / or loses his or her temper quickly. |
| Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with. |
| Abuses drugs or alcohol. |
| Claims you are responsible for his or her emotional state. (This is a core diagnostic criteria for Codependency.) |
| Blames you when he or she mistreats you. |
| Has a history of bad relationships. |
| Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being. |
| You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do. |
| Makes "jokes" that shame, humiliate, demean or embarrass you, weather privately or around family and friends. |
| Your partner grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship, and/or was abused as a child. |
| Your partner "rages" when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control. |
| Both parties in abusive relationships may develop or progress in drug or alcohol dependence in a (dysfunctional) attempt to cope with the pain. |
| You leave and then return to your partner repeatedly, against the advice of your friends, family and loved ones. |
| You have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it's the right thing to do. Thanks Recovery-man.com! |
The First Lady's Way: A Woman Way to Get the Right Guy
Paris Le'Ora
I recently was reading President Barack Obama's book "The Audacity of Hope" and I was drawn to the chapter titled Family. Within it Pres. Obama described how our first lady initially wasn't even interested in him. She had a plan for her life and it didnt include him....at the time. Now when you look at them, as they both walk the first dog, BO, all you see is pure admiration for one another. How can you get from being single to being in a meaningful relationship like the two of them? Its a simple as it will ever get, when it comes to dating advice. Dont letting meeting a new person faze you. Sometimes people can get really thristy really fast. No matter how the times change there is one thing that won't: What ever is desired is worth a chase.
If I confused you let me clearify! If somebody what's something bad enough they will do what they must to get what they want. Ladies I'm not telling you to play games but then again I am. More than one time have you thought you and a guy where going down the right road to bliss, but all of a sudden he stopped showing interest. If your relationship went a little like this then I can tell you the problem: every time he called you answered, every time he suggested the two of you hang out , you didn't even have to check your schedule you were automatically free. If that's you, you have to much free time on your hands. Trust me its okay to cancel sometimes, trust, he's not going to write you off forever, all you have to do is just reschedule.
When you are dating some one you should work them around your sheducle, not work your shedule around them. Dont be a thirst thirst, it's not cute and you just may end up being the old lady at the end of the block with all those damn cats and NO MAN!!!!!
How To Flirt!
Matt Ryan
You're hanging out at a party when, out of nowhere, you suddenly notice someone standing close to you. In fact, you realize he or she keeps turning up nearby, trying to catch your eye. The two of you start talking and your new friend smiles, laughs, finds excuses to touch you and holds your gaze. This person is clearly flirting with you. How do you know? Because, although you may not realize it, you are already an expert in flirting and body language.
Flirting Demystified
What would dating be without flirting? Flirting is fun, it signals that we're interested in someone and it initiates most successful relationships. Flirting means giving someone your full attention; it means smiling, touching and playing. In the right circumstances, it is a powerful tool. In the wrong circumstances, it can lead to embarrassment and be a complete turn off.
For most people, flirting comes naturally. Many forms of flirting are simply outgrowths of the way you behave when you meet someone you really like and are interested in having a romantic relationship with. However, some flirting is more subtle, making it hard to tell whether you're reading something that's not there into an interaction simply because you want the other person to flirt with you.
For these reasons, it's useful to examine some of the key indicators of flirting, which can prove extremely helpful when trying to figure out if the person across the table is interested in you – and help you express your interest in them!
For more go to: topdatingtips.com
Top 5 Male Turnoffs
By:Pashence Jackson
Turnoff #1-Flakiness
Guys say that the biggest turnoff in a woman is when she cannot commit and when she constantly flakes on plans. If you are a gal that constantly cancels plans last minute, you are giving your guy the impression that he's not good enough for now. Who really wants to date someone who makes them feel temporary?
Turnoff #2-Poor Communication skills
Change your ways if you are this girl: your date/bf said or did something that you did not like. Instead of saying something, you just went along with it. You probably said it was just fine. Later down the line you got upset again for the same thing. Most of us have done this. Everyone deserves to be with someone who is comfortable communicating wants, needs, and desires. Get in the habit of saying what you mean.
Turnoff #3-Not playing fair
Guys pay attention to everything! You expect every date to go like this: he drives to the other side of town to pick you up, open the door, pay the check, drop you off, and call that night! You need a wake up call! You are not dating fairly! Most important if you get into an argument with that person and you throw things, hold grudges and try to win every argument, you are going to be a very lonely single person. Relationships should be give and take. Pick him up and take him out sometimes. You pay sometimes. There is nothing wrong with that.
Turnoff #4-Trying to change him
I think the media portrays this the most. Don't you know how you read about a woman trying to change how her man dresses, what he watches, or even the music he listens to. Please don't be this gal. Just as the guy in your life accepts you, you should accept him. And if you can't? DON'T DATE HIM! It's just that simple. The whole point of being single is to meet a variety of people and, eventually settle down with the right one. Rather than trying to change the wrong guy into Mr.Right, why not keep playing the field until you meet that someone whose imperfections aren't your desire to change?
Turnoff #5 Ultimatums
Men hate ultimatums! They are very ineffective. Healthy and happy relationships don't need ultimatums. When you regularly communicate your needs to the person you're in a relationship with, ultimatums are unnecessary. It's when thee communication breaks down, when one person feels that their needs are not met. This should be avoided at all costs!
So there it is--the top 5 male turnoffs. By understanding these dating tips. You ultimately master how to turn the right guy on. Good Luck!
The Relationship Fast: One week down
Paris Le'Ora
I recently have started this a new called a relationship fast. What it is, is a period of time that you refrain from anything relationship centered, such as flirting, going out on dates, booty calls , late night "cakin' it" sessions(flirting over the phone). Over this period of time you just enjoy being by yourself, you could even take this time to reevaluate what type of person you want to be with. NO RELATIONSHIP's, NO BOO's ,DIPS ,SIDELINE HOES nothing. I started the fast just to see if I could really do it, if I could really refrain from flirting and not be so boy crazy. I'm one of those relationship type of people, I'm always looking for some new commitment and honeybee (boyfriend). I have recently found out how WRONG that is.If you don't take time to be by yourself you won't realize how dope you are. Which means you are more susceptible to letting people mistreat you or not love and care for you the way you should be. So if you wanna do the Fast with me, just commit to a month of your time, you may yourself a better person and improve who you are. If your down and committed go on twitter/facebook find me and reply "yea LE I'm down". I hope I have some supporters in this.A Kimora Inspired "Do"
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